folly, when you want to find a particular post, one way is to use the "search" button at the top of the page. Enter the name of the poster, followed by a colon, and then a key word (or key words, or part of a key word), click on "comments", and then click on "search". So if you want a post by me on glucose metabolism, you could enter:
sunshyne: glucose
which pulls up seven posts.
Entering:
sunshyne: glucose metabolism
pulls up two posts.
It those are not the posts you had in mind (or you want additional information) please let me know what you'd like.
Welcome Martha, I am so sorry for you need to join us, however, I am sure you will find that everyone is kind, helpful & non-judgemental. My husband is 58 & suffers from FTD. We have grown children, however, there are others on this board that have younger children.
Welcome to CharlotteE. She just posted on the "Where are you from?" and "Anyone going thru the VA?"topics. She lives in Washington State and asked if any of us had used the Portland VA. Not me - I'm on the east coast.
Welcome Desert Barb, Sorry for your need to come here, however, I am sure your will find this a safe place to land. My husband is 58 years old with FTD. Memory problems started about gosh, it's probably been going on 6 years now.
Thank you Kadee. I am glad I found this before my sister returns (she went away for Christmas). We have our RV parked at my oldest sister's. Her husband died in Jan 2008 at age 86. We were here the last two years helping her take care of her place and helping where we could. She did most of his care with breaks when he did his respite at the VA and she put him in a foster home for a couple months. Brought him home where he died a month later. I don't think I can do that - doing all his care like when he gets towards the end.
The point being - she went into a deep depression after he died and is just coming out of it. I know my sister and she will say she knows what I am going through but she doesn't. She is 14 years older than me, this was her third marriage and they had only be married 7 years when he died. He had a stroke after 2 years of marriage of which he recovered from quickly but he still went downhill - gave up so to speak.
That is way different than the person you have been grown up with for 37+ years, been through everything with and now have to see your life end at an early age (big difference between 86 and 61). Basically what I am saying is that I don't expect much empathy for her - plus my whole life I was the one that was said to not need any ones help. Long story i wont' go into.
Thank you for being here because I know as time goes on I will reap even more comfort and help.
Welcome to all new members! we had a rush of newbies in the last couple of days. Its a great relief to finally find a place that understands what caring for AD spouses entails. here we offer experience from handson advice and suggestions some will find helpful. hope to see all of you posting and looking forward to knowing you better. my best, Divvi
Hi Diana & Welcome. Glad you have decided to post, besides just reading. As you have found everyone is very helpful. I feel this board & these people have been a godsend to me. They even tolerate that I don't have cats.
A big fat HI from me, too, Carrollouise! We know you run a support group ... tell us more about yourself and your husband. And tell us what we can do to help...
Hi & Welcome Herenow, I am sorry you need to join this group, however, I am sure you will find everyone kind, non-judgmental & helpful. Please feel free to post at anytime. My husband is 58 with FTD.
Hi and welcome to Libby402, I am sorry you need to join this unfortunately increasing family. However, I am sure you will find everyone helpful. My husband is 58 with FTD.
Hi and welcome Carrollouise. If you run a support group, I'm sure you will have a lot of good advice for us here. Welcome also to Libby402. I don't have cats either but apparently I've been forgiven. They're still nice to me.
I'd like to chime in about Carollouise. We got to know her when she was brought in to replace our former support group leader. She is wonderful--very knowledgeable and compassionate, and a great sounding board for my ideas. Although my DH is in the middle stage, he is great at compensating and very high functioning. However, my outlook is very proactive--I want to plan for what's coming and reduce the number of surprises. Carollouise really has been an enormous help to me, in the practical and emotional senses. She has lots of experience with dementia patients in general, and has also become an expert at young onset dementia. When I found this website, Itold her what a great resource it is and that she should check it out.
Wow, so many new members! Welcome all. I hadn't read these posts until today, there were 126 new comments which I knew would take some time. Hope I can keep you all straight. That comes with time. I see there are several cat owners, & yes bluedaze I would want to know! (but I like dogs too) Dazed, you are so funny.
Saginaw Mich,wife is the unlucky one to have been diagnosed with this terrible disease,she worked for school system an taught for over 30 years an then a few years ago things started to go downhill,we both thought "old age" an kind of blew it off but have since found out it was much more than that.I'm 71 an trying to cope as best I can,she's at the stage now where she thinks her boys live here an always wonders where they are,imagines she still has home in Fla,loses thngs,hides things,doesn't know me her husband of 20 years,asks me who I am,will I be spending the night,wants a divorce because I'm never here,I pray every day for the strength an compassion to care for her like I know she would for me,sorry for the long winded note
Long-winded? Gourdchipper and I have been jockeying for who can write the longest posts, and trust me, ol don, you don't come even close! <grin>
I am so sorry, it's so very difficult to try to deal with what this does to our beloved spouses.
Have you read "Understanding the Dementia Experience"? Joan has a link to it on the home page (partway down the menu on the left, the picture of the woman with the life jacket and the yellow "need help" sign.) Or copy this and paste into your browser:
Welcome Ol Don & Perk, In one sense I am glad you have found this forum, everyone is very helpful. In another sense I am sorry for your need. Sadly, there are so many new members.
Welcome Lullie, I am sorry for your need to come to this forum, however, I am sure you will find everyone kind & helpful. I have noticed you have posted on some other post, which is great.
EVERYONE THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT! I am a "newbie" and your support and care is awesome. What a blessing this site is for all of us when we feel so alone. Thanks, Lullie
I would like to issue an appology to all new memebers. I have been remiss and involved in my own issues but I would like to send a big welcome to all of you. I hope you stay and learn as I have. Your hand will be held and your heart will be cared for here. M
Hello to all new members. I am also sorry for the cause that brought you here. I have been so busy with my DH that I had very little time to post. I do try and read the posts during the day whenever I get the chance. Again welcome to all newbies.
Hi Teri T & Welcome, I am sorry for your need to join this forum, however, since you mentioned you have been reading, you know how helpful Joan has made this site.
Welcome Andy, I am sorry you need this forum, however, you mentioned you have been lurking so, you know everyone is very helpful. Please feel free to post at anytime.
Hi & Welcome JoJoDancer! Sorry for your need to come to this forum, however, I am sure you have realized from reading that everyone is kind, helpful & non-judgemental, venting is good sometimes.
Hello, TeriT, Stressed, Andy and JoJoDancer. Although I am happy that you have found us here, I am also saddened that there are so many of us that are dealing with this terrible disease. You will find us accepting and helpful. Welcome.