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    • CommentAuthorKittyc
    • CommentTimeFeb 28th 2020
     
    Good Morning ,I am new to the group. I have read a lot of the posts.Everyone seems to know how long their LO has had AD. Me ? I am not sure ,I try to think back as to when it all started but can not com up with a date . My LO is *^ , I am 71 .We have been married for 17 years . From all the information I have read, my husband is in stage 5 ,but then how can we really be sure? He was going to one Dr that had him walk down the hall and said yes he has AD. REALLY? I stated taking him to another DR. That sent him to a Neurologist that ask him a few questions had him copy a drawing she had drawn.Gave him a medication that was suppose to slow down the AD . He still takes it but refused to go back to the Neurologist.
    I told my DR.what I was going through.My LO has AD ,my baby brother was diagnosed with cancer ( 2019 he past away last year with a massive heart attack, 2018 I lost another younger brother ,also a massive heart attack .(1year ! Month apart) .So all was so overwhelming. PLUS depression runs in our family! So I take two kinds of meds now for depression and anxiety .I don’t know if it is really helping .I have gained 30+ LBS. I still fell depressed a lot .
    Back to me LO. It is hard to deal with a LO that is and has been very controlling ,but I Deltona with the controlling part pretty well as I am strong willed and hard to control.Now that my LO has AD he is still trying to control.I can not do as I use to in dealing with the controll.I would just leave the house,or go work out my frustrations in gardening. No I can not just leave the house ,and if I go out to work I go out to work in the yard or go to another room to escape the never ending questions (what day is this , is anyone coming over ,do I have a Dr. appointment ...ON AND ON with the questions.) My LO comes to tell me the phone rang ,I have a call. So I leave what I am doing to answer the phone call. NO one is on the phone. No one left a message. GRRRRR.
    I could go on and on ! There is so much to deal with it is overwhelming. He use to help me with so much ,we were always laughing !Now I have to do everything.He voluntarily gave up his license after a wreck that totaled our car. So I make him ride with me to pick up groceries and run errands ..just to get him out off the house ,he sits in the car. He also has orthostatic Hypotension(He stands up and sometimes passes out.) He wont use a cane or walker !
    I can leave him alone for short times. He will sit and watch TV till I get home.I know there will come a time where I can not leave him alone.Till then we will carry on “One Day At A Time” Some days 1 min. At a time.
    Thank you for letting me vent.
    • CommentAuthorCarolVT
    • CommentTimeFeb 28th 2020
     
    Hi Kittyc, sometimes venting helps! I hope so. You are heard!
    • CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeFeb 28th 2020
     
    Hi Kittyc. My husband is 72 diagnosed 12 years ago, I am 67. I place him for good a year ago. Yes, there is lot to vent about - this disease is so frustrating and horrible for both of us. Most of us women can identify with loosing our helpmate - the one who helped so much and now the frustration and anger that can build up when they just sit there while we do all the work, take on all the responsibilities for both and being our spouse/partners memory beside our own. The stress has it toll. I have put on 50 pounds since his diagnosis - 30 the first couple years, another 20 the last 5 years.

    Feel free to respond in other threads or start your own. As for the AD drugs, none of them have proven to slow the disease even though doctors love to tell patients and their families they do. IF they work, which is now said to be less than 30% of the cases, they will allow the person to remain cognitively functioning while the disease rages on. My thinking how would they ever know if it slows it down since every person progresses at a different rate - there is no standard time for progression. The only way you know if it helps is to remove them from the drug. If it has helped with cognition you will know within a few days at which time you can start it again. We use to have a geriatric doctor who was on here. He said if he put them back on within two weeks the patient usually regained back to where they were when it was stopped.

    As for see when it started - not all of us can because sometimes it is so subtle. It really doesn't matter. I never saw any signs. I was tired of repeating to my husband all the time - called it selective hearing like with kids but thought it might be his hearing. I guess the doctor did the MMSE then sent him to a neuropsych doctor for further testing. Based on those results and family history he was diagnosed.

    If placement is in the future and you are not self paying, prepare now for Medicaid qualifications if you have not. I do hope all your legal paperwork is in order.
    • CommentAuthormyrtle*
    • CommentTimeMar 18th 2020
     
    Hi Kittyc, I just saw your post. Welcome to the site. My husband was like yours and it drove me crazy. I ended up hiring a companion who came in twice a week for 3 hours. Even though he really liked her, if I stayed home he would still follow me around. So I either had to send them out to do errands or go out myself. I don't know how Alz spouses stay sane.
    • CommentAuthoraaa
    • CommentTimeMar 19th 2020
     
    Hey Kittyc, I too just saw your post. Guess I just look for the current month when I check in. Almost had to look to see if this was one I had posted, it sounded so familiar. Can't count how many times I've vented here just to keep myself from screaming outloud :) I think AD is a little like retardation was treated years ago - no one wanted to talk about it - just bury your head in the sand - keep them out of sight.

    I don't remember seeing your name on the other threads, did you decide not to come back? Really, it's about the best deal going now, a place to vent, ask questions, complain and complain again :) as there is no getting away from the daily realities of life with AD.
    • CommentAuthorWyrock11!
    • CommentTimeApr 9th 2020
     
    My name is Linda Houston. I was writing and was interrupted and can’t find my comments so I can finish.
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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeApr 9th 2020
     
    Linda, try again. We'd like to welcome you.
    • CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeApr 9th 2020
     
    Hi Linda. You can always write your comment in word or some other program then copy and paste to here. That way you don't loose it.