This is a term I really never understood. It is usually reserved for the aftermath of something terrible. Last evening at a meeting I met some folks from a charity that my husband had been very active with. When he became ill and could not offer them anything more I never heard from them. I wrote it off as just another bailout that we are all too familiar with. Seeing those ladies brought all the hurt back. I spoke to one of them who remembered Bill in his better time. She was in tears after our converstation. This morning the director called me. Bill had gotten very nasty too many times and told them he never wanted to hear from them again. I knew nothing about this. Upshot=the director and I are meeting for lunch next week and I will be taking over where Bill left off. Closure!

I am so glad that you had an opportunity to find out what had been going on. In the earlier stages when they can still be on their own, we really don't have a clue what they are saying and doing unless someone lets us know. Even then, it is hard to tell. I was told my husband had done a couple of things that just didn't fit with what I was seeing. To this day, I don't know if he was being blamed because of the AD or if he truly did that. Unfortunately, the person that told me about it wasn't too trustworthy nor were they comfortable with him before the disease or after it.