I guess i've been living in la-la-land and didn't realize it. I learned today I need a lilttle oxygen during exercise periods. I'm going to have to get some kind of counseling regarding my failing eye-signt because I'm not coping well with the loss and I also need to learn how to take care of things. I told a friend today in confidence that I felt like DH was acting like a child and she replied "Oh, he is a child." I didn't think people noticed and she said almost everyone who's known him for very long has noticed a serious decline.
I know this is wrong thinking and that it is a dumb statement but I have this feeling insie of me that I'm either not doing something I should be doing or that I'm doing something wrong. I really just want to crawl off in a hole someplace and pull the wall in over me.
Mawzy, you were probably thinking that your husband was fooling everyone into thinking he was okay, not realizing that others who have friends or relatives with AD noticed the changes in him but were not mentioning it because they thought you and he didn't want you to do so. You are doing the best you can and that is all any of us can do. Don't feel badly for not being Superwoman. None of us are. We are all in the same boat and we have a lot of life preservers!
I am so sorry to hear about the oxygen and vision problems. You have so much on your plate. Just put everything on your plate (the one with divisions in it) and keep everything separated and try to deal with one thing at a time and not let it overwhelm you. Have a really big hug!! And know that we care deeply for you and are here for you.
Mawzy I think you have been acting like most of us regarding your H failing memory. Most of us don't talk about the situation to anyone but immediate family. I know I didn't until about a year ago but I discovered his friends already knew about his decline.
I have called 3 friends locally from some years back , that I had heard the spouse had AD. I thought maybe we could support each other but NONE of them called me back. So, I have decided it worked better for me to maintain and educate myself with this great support group. It sounds like you are doing a great job taking care of your H and you should be proud of yourself.
I am sorry you are having so many problems with your health because taking care of a spouse with AD is more than enough to deal with. I have 2 friends with macular degeneration and I see where you are coming from. But, you post on this message board and keep your self active and you can do it.
Dear Mawzy ... so many bad things in your life right now. I'm so sorry. When I'm getting a little down, I think about your offer of a cuppa and a tour of your rose garden. I don't have rose garden to offer you, but I could take you for a walk by the lake. Our weather is lovely, even in winter -- we still have flowers, and butterflies. The sun will be warm on your face, and there will be all sorts of ducks paddling around, a pair of mute swans, probably a snowy egret or great blue heron down at the water's edge.
Mawzy, i am sure that caring for a spouse with AD contributes to health problems for us. I have developed asthma and never had it before and I am sure my blood pressure must be up. Sometimes, I think AD is contagious because sometimes I get so upset I cannot think straight. My close friends and family know about H's diagnosis. I tell other friends when I see them. I think it is important to get the word out.I need to talk to our neighbors. We have lived in this town home community for three years.The neighbors are friendly, but we do not socialize with them. Maryd
Mawzy, do you know about making the text larger in your browser? It's usually the Ctrl key plus the "plus" key on a pc, the command key (four-leaf clover key) plus the "plus" key on the mac. That should make things easier for you..
But the oxygen during "exercise periods" - are you talking about when you just walk to and from the bus stop?
Mawzy - as far as you husband goes. If he is healthy and safe, you are doing a good job. The disease will do what it will do to him and there isn't anything you can do about that part.
As for friends noticing his decline. The disease does hit a point where you can't hide it anymore. How you treat the whole thing will make a difference in how comfortable other people are around the two of you. Unfortunately, there will be some who will never be comfortable - the ones that will fall in the category may surprise you.
Sorry to hear that you now have a new wardrobe accessory (oxegen). I went to see Peter, Paul and Mary perform a couple of weeks ago. She had luekmia and a lung was slightly damaged from the radiation and now needs oxegen too. I thought she handled it very well telling the audience about her new wardrobe accessory. Her treatment of the situation did a lot for a positive attitute towards it from the audience.
for others - you reverse it by ctrl "-" (the minus key next to the plus key). You can also set the minimum type size in Preferences in some browsers; it varies from one to the other.
The mac and the pc both have three buttons in the top menu bar - they're on the right in the pc and on the left, in the mac. (go figure) One means to close that window. The one on the other end means to minimize it, shrink it down to the bar at the bottom. The one in the middle means to "maximize" which means to make the window wide enough to hold the contents. If you just ctrl+ one tap, you shouldn't need to enlarge the screen, but if you get carried away and ctrl-+++++ then you might need to. As far as centering is concerned most decent websites will work anyhow. (I assume you know about the "sideways elevator" along the bottom of the window!
briegull-as our computer maven-how do I get out of AOL. I can't locate a phone # and any e-mails I sent come back with a "not our department". I doubt that I can just uninstall it. Reading blogs about opting out make my hair stand on end.
briegull, I so much enjoy your little hints and shortcuts. Would it be possible to start a thread for Computer Hints. I know very little about using my mac other than some very basic things and I imagine I am not alone here on this site. The computer manuals are confusing because they throw too much stuff all at once.
Imohr that is a great idea. When I got my first computer I went to Sam's to buy Computers for Dummies, I asked a young man working there and he advised against it-too advanced for me.
I haven't seen a copy of Computers for Dummies for years, but one of the advantages of that series is that it takes it for granted that you know NOTHING about the subject. It starts at the beginning.
I've also had good luck with the Learning Visually series. I had just plan given up with Photoshop because being MAC based everything "intuitive" didn't work. With that series I started at the absolute beginning - this is how you get a new "page" open so you can start "drawing". And went from there.
Either series is a good way to start something new.