We will be leaving Sunday for Ohio. This will be the third trip this year and I don't expect this one will be any better than the other two. SIL is in ALF and thinks she can stay there for 5 years for free. She also thinks the things she couldn't take to the ALF are in storage and she wants to go get them and last but not least she is saying the Senior apartments where she llived has a new manager and she can go back there. They don't and she can't!
Mac just isn't able to accept that this is the Alzheimer's talking...he doesn't think he is that bad, which he isn't compared to many of your LO's but he can't remember a lot of things himself. We were talking a couple of days ago and he said his Neuro never told him he couldn't drive. I told him it was the neuropsyc told him that and I think it was when he was talking about him having a small stroke and several minis. Mac's answer was "I didn't know I had a stroke."
I will probably have withdrawal pains from this site while we are away. LOL. I am not relishing the thought of driving 600 miles again and I am really hoping this will be the last one we have to make. Mac isn't that eager to go either but he is talking about next year. AAAAAAAAAARGH!
I pray each of you will have some joy in each day. Take care.
I hope all goes well in Onio with your SIL. I am having a hard enough time dealing with my young husband with this disease. I can't imagine having to deal with 2 family members with it at the same time. I will be thinking of you. Please let us know how the trip went.
Starling and Nikki, I thank you for your wishes and thoughts. Mac and I talked earlier and I tried to get through to him that anything his sister comes up with is the Alz talking. I don't expect him to remember though because sometimes I have a hard time staying cool and calm with her.
Okay folks we are back home earlier than we planned because SIL got mad at us again and told us to leave...which we did GLADLY! For 3 days she went on about some of her "stuff" being in storage or someone at the seniors apartment had some of them. We finally found out, after numerous phone calls, she had told the woman from APS to donate what was left!!!!!!!!!
We almost didn't make it to Ohio. Going through Virginia there are 2 tunnels....trucks have to use the right lane. Coming out of the second tunnel I am in the left lane and the next thing I know a semi is coming over into my lane. How I missed the guard rail and got back on the road I have no idea except it was the grace of God. I drove for 9 hours the first day and when we got to the motel I told Mac I couldn't do it again. I don't know which hurt worse my back or my hands. I have arthritis in some of my fingers. After SIL telling us to leave for the 4th time I am not planning on giving her the opportunity to tell us a 5th time.
I hope things have been pretty calm for everyone while we were gone and that there was something to enjoy each day.
Nope, can't make the trip to Ohio, my back hurts too much. Nope, can't drive that many hours any more. Just not able to do that. Don't mention that you did it in September when it comes up again unless he does. If he does remember the trip, just say how lucky you both were to have gotten home safely because there were times you didn't think you would.
Jean, I'm very glad you're safely home again. I hope you stick to your guns about not going there again. It's a very sad situation, but you need to focus on caring for your husband and yourself. And please put a little more emphasis on caring for yourself, okay?!
Thanks Starling and Sunshyne. It is really hard to be nice to SIL she is and always has been nasty and demanding. Sometimes it seems like she chooses what NOT to remember. Having a very limited amount of patience doesn't help....I need to hang on to what little I have for Mac. :-)
You're right Kitty, it was a trip from hell. SIL has called here wanting to know if we got home alright. That is a first, every other time we have had to call her to let her know. She told Mac that she can't wait for us to go up there again....I hope she doesn't hold her breath waiting.
Jean21, I'm glad that you got home safely, but sorry you had to go through all of that again! Your SIL should hold her breath until you return...... <grin>