JOAN’S BLOG – THURSDAY/FRIDAY, JUNE 19/20, 2008 – A LULL IN THE STORM

Sometimes it’s a light breeze; sometimes hurricane force gales; sometimes a violent tornado; but we are always being twisted, lifted, and slammed against the shore, time and again, by a force of nature over which we have no control – Alzheimer’s Disease. Each time, we pick ourselves up, emotionally battered and bruised to take it all again.

Once in awhile, there is a lull in the storm. It may last a day, a week, a month, but when it comes, we should take every advantage of it - embrace it, enjoy it, revel in it, however short lived it may be.

After weeks of emotional pain and drama around here, only some of which found their way into Blogs (see below for 6/10; 6/12; 6/16; and 6/17), we seemed to have entered a “lull” period. Once the dust settled, my husband was so wounded by the pain his behavior inflicted upon me, that he has been making a monumental effort to control his impulses. It has been working well for two days.

Isn’t it strange how they can be completely out of control for days or weeks, and then pull it together for a time? I do wonder about the oddity of that.

The how and why of the lull does not matter to me at the moment. I am going to take full advantage of it. Tomorrow night is the monthly concert in our Town square.
We will take our chairs, set up on the green, and enjoy some music. Saturday night, we are going out to dinner, just the two of us, for our anniversary. No, when I was 21 years old and a new bride, I did not imagine my 38th wedding anniversary to include the intruder, Alzheimer’s Disease, and all the heartache it has brought, but I have to look at the positive – my husband knows who I am, and during the lull times, tells me how much I mean to him, and how much he loves me. That is more than many husbands and wives with AD spouses have.

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