JOAN’S BLOG – THUR/FRI OCTOBER 22/23, 2009 – GROUNDHOG DAY AGAIN GROUNDHOG DAY AGAIN GROUNDHOG DAY AGAIN

Almost a year and a half ago, I wrote a blog entitled “Groundhog Day”. To those of you who have not seen that movie – Bill Murray wakes up every day to the same day. He does the same thing, sees the same people, has exactly the same conversations every day. Sounds a lot like our lives with our spouses, doesn’t it?

Although back then, Groundhog Day occurred sporadically in my house, now it is occurring EVERY DAY. Every day is Groundhog Day.

When we lived in the other house, almost every night, Sid complained that the plasma TV gave off so much heat, that the den was always hot, even with the air conditioning on. He never sat in the den without turning on the ceiling fan. Last week he told me that the TV gave off a lot of heat and he needed to turn on the fan in the den. He also said that we never had that problem in the other house, to which I told him that indeed we did, and he complained about it every night.

Every night for the past week, he has said exactly the same thing – “The TV gives off so much heat. It never did that in the other house.” And every night for the past week, I have replied, “Yes it did. You complained about it all of the time.” Last night when he said it and I answered accordingly, I started to laugh. I could not help it. It is so very sad, but I cannot cry every time this happens. I would never stop crying.

As you know, I joined the gym last week. I came home and told him about it, to which he replied angrily, “Well, what about me? Why didn’t you sign me up?”  I told him that he had to see the orthopedic FIRST to get a diagnosis on his painful back, perhaps be sent to physical therapy, and THEN could join the gym when the doctor allowed it. After telling him this, I laughed and told him that my answer was going to be the same when he asked me the gym question every succeeding day. Even he could not help smiling a bit.

Every day since then, when the gym has been mentioned, he has asked, “Well, what about me? When am I going to the gym?” My answer is always the same – “After you see the orthopedic doctor for your back.” And I laugh. What else can I do?

He told me recently that when he hears something, it goes into his head and is immediately lost. Which is why every day is Groundhog Day in my house.

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